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What to expect when you are expecting…13 years later

What to expect when you are expecting…13 years later

My youngest daughter is 13 years old.  I am on my fourth teenager, so I am bracing for what the next four to six years will bring.  Just as a hint for those who have not faced this phase of life yet, the comic “Zits” is completely on target.

It comes on suddenly

I remember when my oldest daughter became a teenager.  We used to take walks together all the time.  Then, one day she said “no.”  I actually forced her to walk with me.  We walked for 30 min. and she didn’t say a word the entire time.  My husband had the wake up experience with our next daughter.  He picked her up from the movies on a Friday night.    When he walked into the theater lobby he was greeted in a new way.  “What are you doing here?” she gasped mortified, “Wait in the parking lot!”  Little did he know she had become a teenager overnight.

Can it get any worse? 

Another daughter turned 16 last year and has already been in four car accidents.  They have not been serious, thank goodness.  All have been in a parking lot.  The last one happened just two weeks ago.  When I called our insurance agent, he suggested we could avoid an increase in our costs through their policy of accident forgiveness.  He checked our file and to my embarrassment listed off the accidents each of my daughters had in their early driving careers.  There was no more forgiveness for my family!

Oh, that teenage attitude!

We had curfew fights every weekend with one daughter.  Another told me I wear my pants too high and my socks weren’t right.  Can you believe that?  (I do feel a pang of guilt thinking back to me telling my dad not to wear his winter hat with the ear flaps.)  I begged my youngest daughter to not put her parents through the teenage attitude.  She promised she would always take a walk with me, never complain about our appearance, curfew would not be a problem and she certainly would be an excellent driver.  The other day she didn’t wave at me on the way to the school bus.  She rolled her eyes at me when I suggested wearing gloves and a hat on a 10 degree day.  Argh it’s starting!

Teenage survival tips for parents:

🙂 Let it roll right off you.  It’s not you, it’s them.  Your pants are not too high and your socks are just fine.

🙂 This too shall pass.  By the time they reach 20, you get smarter and cooler.

:)Set boundaries, but pick your battles.  If a simple walk turns into a forced death march, it’s not worth it.  Curfews?  Now there is something to fight about.

Keep your sense of humor.  I suggest a daily reading of “Zits”?  Hang in there, if I can do it, you can do it!

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